The Conflict Competition Mindset

Why is that trying to resolve conflicts with some people feels like being locked in to a brutal Tug of War game?  You may be faced with someone who has Conflict Competition Mindset. For many high conflict individuals, conflict is always considered a competition; a competition where the only acceptable outcome is when one party…

3 Strategies for Resolving Conflicts with a Conflict Hider

Do you have a Conflict Hider in your life?  Conflict isn’t fun, and most of us do what we can to avoid it when possible.  But some people take conflict avoidance to the extreme, and that can make it difficult for those around them to resolve conflicts when they arise.  Conflict is a normal part of life,…

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The Power of Choice; Self-Determination in Mediation

It’s empowering to know that we have choices.  Even when we need to choose between solutions that are not ideal, when we have the power to choose for ourselves, we are able to determine what is best for us, and what we are willing to agree to. This is a central element of mediation; each…

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4 Major Benefits of Mediation to Resolve a Conflict

When it comes to resolving a conflict, you have options.  If you are considering filing a lawsuit or going to arbitration, you may want to first consider some specific benefits of mediation. Often arbitration and mediation are lumped together, because people assume that they are essentially the same experience.  In fact, mediation is a unique…

Confidential mediation

What Happens in Mediation Stays in Mediation; What Confidentiality Really Means

Can you keep a secret?  I can.  As a professional mediator it is my job to honor the confidentiality of the mediation process.  It is a responsibility I take very seriously.  Confidentiality is one of the major benefits of resolving a conflict through mediation. In the state of California, mediation is by law a confidential…