3 Major Communication Mistakes during Conflict

Communication is a critical part of resolving a conflict.  If your goal is a peaceful resolution, and to return to a positive relationship, it is very important you don’t make these three major communication mistakes: Texting  Texting has become one the most common ways that people communication.  It is fast, efficient, and convenient.  It is…

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Trying to Resolve a Major Conflict

Conflict is often messy.  When the conflict is prolonged, high stakes, or high emotion resolving conflict can be difficult.  If finding resolution and ending the conflict is important to you, then doing some self-reflection before trying to resolve the conflict can be very helpful.  Ask yourself these four questions, and give yourself time to calming…

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The Power of Choice; Self-Determination in Mediation

It’s empowering to know that we have choices.  Even when we need to choose between solutions that are not ideal, when we have the power to choose for ourselves, we are able to determine what is best for us, and what we are willing to agree to. This is a central element of mediation; each…

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Is Compromise Worth it to Resolve a Conflict? 4 Questions to Ask Yourself

Prolonged conflicts can be time consuming, emotionally draining, distracting and disruptive to productivity and generally unpleasant.  Mediation can be an extremely effective way to end a conflict.  The goal of mediation is to find a resolution that is acceptable to both parties.  Essentially it is to see if there is an agreement that both parties…

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4 Major Benefits of Mediation to Resolve a Conflict

When it comes to resolving a conflict, you have options.  If you are considering filing a lawsuit or going to arbitration, you may want to first consider some specific benefits of mediation. Often arbitration and mediation are lumped together, because people assume that they are essentially the same experience.  In fact, mediation is a unique…

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What Happens in Mediation Stays in Mediation; What Confidentiality Really Means

Can you keep a secret?  I can.  As a professional mediator it is my job to honor the confidentiality of the mediation process.  It is a responsibility I take very seriously.  Confidentiality is one of the major benefits of resolving a conflict through mediation. In the state of California, mediation is by law a confidential…

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5 Signs You Need a Moderator

Sometimes you can tell there is a danger that a situation is likely to explode.  That’s when it’s time to consider some professional help to diffuse it. Moderation is a preemptive form of mediation.  It is scheduled and conducted before a specific conflict has broken out in an organization or group, but when conflicts are…

Timing for resolution

Too Soon? Too Late? When is the right time to resolve a conflict?

Timing can be critical in the success of a conflict resolution attempt.  But it can be tricky to know when the right time is. When I was a newlywed my mother-in-law wrote down a collection of her recipes that she knew my husband loved.  It was her thoughtful way of passing along family traditions. The…