The Conflict Competition Mindset

Why is that trying to resolve conflicts with some people feels like being locked in to a brutal Tug of War game?  You may be faced with someone who has Conflict Competition Mindset. For many high conflict individuals, conflict is always considered a competition; a competition where the only acceptable outcome is when one party…

3 Strategies for Resolving Conflicts with a Conflict Hider

Do you have a Conflict Hider in your life?  Conflict isn’t fun, and most of us do what we can to avoid it when possible.  But some people take conflict avoidance to the extreme, and that can make it difficult for those around them to resolve conflicts when they arise.  Conflict is a normal part of life,…

3 Tips for Avoiding Christmas (and Other Holiday) Party Conflict

Is your mission this Christmas season to avoid holiday party conflict?  Does it seem like mission impossible?  Believe it or not, with a little planning, preparation, and persistence you can bring peace back to your gathering. Christmas parties are supposed to be fun.  They are supposed to be celebrations where people connect and build relationships. …

8 Clues to a Conflict Personality

Conflict is an unavoidable fact of life.  From time to time everyone experiences the friction of conflict.  It is natural, normal, and at time necessary.  It can lead to change and improvement.  But some people seem to be constantly caught in a conflict.  Little things, big things, nearly all things lead to a conflict for…

3 Major Communication Mistakes during Conflict

Communication is a critical part of resolving a conflict.  If your goal is a peaceful resolution, and to return to a positive relationship, it is very important you don’t make these three major communication mistakes: Texting  Texting has become one the most common ways that people communication.  It is fast, efficient, and convenient.  It is…

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Trying to Resolve a Major Conflict

Conflict is often messy.  When the conflict is prolonged, high stakes, or high emotion resolving conflict can be difficult.  If finding resolution and ending the conflict is important to you, then doing some self-reflection before trying to resolve the conflict can be very helpful.  Ask yourself these four questions, and give yourself time to calming…

Social Media Fight Clubs? 3 Tactics to Keep Things from Getting Ugly Online

Do your social media feeds look more like an online fight club than a place for friends and family to stay socially connected?  Many platforms take on the feel of a school playground where bullies pick on the vulnerable, gossip spreads like wildfire, and feelings get hurt on a regular basis. February 2017 Barna Research…

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The Power of Choice; Self-Determination in Mediation

It’s empowering to know that we have choices.  Even when we need to choose between solutions that are not ideal, when we have the power to choose for ourselves, we are able to determine what is best for us, and what we are willing to agree to. This is a central element of mediation; each…